Friday, September 20, 2013

You may blush. Sorry ahead of time.



We are not regulars to the mall. Actually I LOVE shopping but I avoid the mall at all costs. When Brian and I first got married we used to go to the mall for "something to do". Ha! I can not remember the last time Brian stepped foot in there and I think he would rather have his teeth pulled.

I never really sat down to figure out the exacts to why but I can promise it has something to do with all the half naked people and posters that line the WHOLE place. It might also have to do with the style of clothes. Ugh. Why do they insist on making such ugly, revealing, hello-I-am-trying-to-look-like-a-hooker style clothing. Well I should be fair, they also have an elderly section and truth be told....I think I would rather wear that stuff. Last, I ALWAYS, ALWAYS, ALWAYS leave with a case of the "wants". Yep, you know that feeling, right? The super adorable boots that were on display were totally calling my name. I heard them..thankyouverymuch.

Well I have a wedding to attend this weekend. No clothes in my closet. Brian would disagree but we women know the dilemma. So off to the mall we went....pit stop at the Goodwill first, of course.

Now this post is not actually about the fact that I still have nothing to wear but more about what I saw there. Normally on this here blog of mine, I post super cute pictures of my kids or one of our many life adventures. Today I decided to shake things up a bit. It may not mean a thing to another soul on this planet but I have to say it. I have to try and let my heart be heard.
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Young Ladies.

My heart completely breaks when I see girls dress and carry themselves in a disgraceful way. These girls are BEAUTIFUL. They really are. The problem....THEY DON"T KNOW IT!

I remember those days. I know what they are feeling. I GET IT!

I have thought about this post all day. I mean really, I would not have listened to a word any person said about my attitude or their idea of what a "lady" should or should not be. So I am not even going to go there. BUT I kind of feel like I have a few secrets. Secrets that need to be shared.

So I am going to share these with you and be a bit open and vulnerable. Why? Because if ONE person can take these to heart, it will be worth it.

Secret #1. You may have a great body. You may be hot stuff at 16 or 35 but you do not need to show everyone to prove it. Turning heads does NOT mean you look great. You may be stunning or you may have  a whole lot of skin showing or tight clothes on and any pervert within a hundred miles can see it. On the other note, any God fearing man can also see it. Any woman can see it. Any child can see it. You are special without having to turn heads.

Secret #2. The guy that is looking you up and down is disgusting. Really. Any REAL man WILL notice that you look good but he will not drool, hoot and holler or break his neck looking at you. That annoying, obnoxious, immature attitude only proves that he is also looking at every OTHER female too! It means he will not be the man you want your son to grow to be. It does not mean you are special. It means you will be treated like you are a dime a dozen.

Secret #3. Sex is good. I have been married for 15 years. I am a 33 year old, God fearing woman and I LOVE sex. Love everything about it. Yep, I said it. I told you I was going to be honest, didn't I? I can PROMISE you that sex in a loving, committed marriage is beyond amazing. It does not even come close to comparing to what is happening with the above guy in secret #2. Trust me.

Secret #4. Its okay to wait. Its okay to be a lady. Those people that you are trying to impress right now, trying to fit in with, they will mean absolutely nothing to you one day. The only thing you will feel about them, is regret and if you are like me...hurt.

Secret #5. You know those guys that are kind of quiet. They have a sweet demeanor but you would never give them the time a day because they are geeks...yeah well, they grow up to be HOT! Take my advice, wait...save yourself...respect yourself...let them mature into men.

Secret #6. What you feel and what you think you want, will change. It will. It may not feel like it now but the day will come.

Secret #7. Your looks and your body will fade. No matter how hard you try. No matter what you eat or don't eat. It will happen. Way faster than you ever thought it would! If you spend you life focused on the next fad or staying fit to the extreme, life will pass you by. Be more than that. Be funny. Be smart. Be more than just the girl with the nice body. Smile. Spending time serving others WILL make you feel better about yourself, your future and will attract that geeky guy we were talking about. ;)


Ahhh...I said it. I feel better now. I'm sorry if you are thinking.."I thought this blog was all about family life, gardening and homeschooling! Who is this crazy lady?!" I just had to say it. I'm going to step down off my soap box and turn off my computer before I decide to erase it all and post adorable pictures of my kids. 



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30 comments :

Renata said...

This is a wonderful post Miranda & I agree with everything you have said. I am also 33!!! :) Although come next week I turn the dreaded.....3....4 (I can't even type it yet ~ sigh). I hope many young women read this post. It breaks my heart to see girls dressing like tramps & believing that it's the best thing to do.
Good on you for being brave & posting this :)
Blessings
Renata:)

Miranda Hupp said...

Thanks Renata! I have been meaning to send you out an email. I've been thinking about you! I turn 34 in December so I am right behind you. :)

Clarissa said...

I agree! Thanks for having the guts to say this!

April said...

Love it! You go, girl! As the mother of three daughters, I taught them that less is more. By that I mean showing less of your body is the best way to be Godly. And as the mother of a son, I have taught him to never ever treat women as objects, or judge them by appearance only. :-) Great post!

Brandi said...

I hate going to the mall, too, for those reasons. Our family never hangs out there. I especially like #2!!! Thanks for being real. :)

Tara Mitchell said...

I love it! Very well said!

The Zookeeper said...

So very true I wish more young women understood these as truths!

Julieanne said...

Beautiful blog post, and thank you for sharing your heart. I wholeheartedly agree!

Angie said...

Beautiful post, very true! I saw it shared on a friends FB wall <3

Anonymous said...

I am TWICE your age and EVERYTHING you said is so very true!!! From clothes, styles, skin, geeky guys and your looks changing. Keep it up!!!

mary sanders said...

I agree!!!!! Cover yourself up. I have little girls that I'm teaching about modesty and self respect. I do not want them to see ALL of you.

Lisa said...

Such a beautiful post! Thank you for having the courage to post it! I wish I could print it out and share it with everyone. I couldn't agree with you more. It is so very, very sad, how our young people today feel like they have to sell their bodies to the world to feel that they are worth something.

Mary said...

Great post! I shared this on Facebook.

Lisa said...

From a mom of boys...thank you!

Meg Falciani said...

THIS is advice to a girl I can get behind. You have value. You are more than what you wear (so wear more!!) The real man WILL notice - and he will compliment you properly, not make a crass remark.

I am almost looking forward to *winter* clothes shopping with my 9 year old. At least long pants are long pants. They aren't shorts. (I'm not insisting she wear a tent, but it would be nice if size 12 shorts had a longer inseam than my toddler's 3Ts.)

And yes, the geeks turn out to be the hotties. Thought I admit, I might be biased by my own hot geek. ;)

Kym T said...

Great post, Miranda! Thanks for sharing, and in such a loving way.

Lexi said...

This post is wonderful! I very much agree! I pray for my 4 daughters as I worry about how they will perceive themselves when they are older with what society will be trying to tell them.

Miranda Hupp said...

I just want to thank all of you ladies for your kind words!

Miranda Hupp said...

Thank you for sharing!

Missy said...

I'm so glad you did post this! Thank you! I think you are absolutely right! And I love the way you said it, humorous enough to make me smile, but completely serious. You did a great job! I'm going to share this :)

Lori said...

Wonderful post! I wish every young lady, and a good number of "grown" women would read this! I'll be sharing to my faceook, for sure!

Charlotte said...

Loved this, Miranda! So, so true. I am now 39 (still can't believe it), and no matter what you do to prevent it, we will all age. And get wrinkles, aches, and not be as agile as we once were. The obsession with body image is insane right now; and you hit the nail on the head with this post to the next generation.

Rachel Brown said...

Awesome post! Just wanted to hi 5 you because I couldn't agree more!

Kim Huff said...

Looooooved it :)

His-Follower said...

Hi, found my way here from Amy Blevins … looking forward to reading more of your blog.

Good stuff here! I think, however, that we need to make a couple of distinctions. (I've tried posting this a few times, I hope it 'sticks' this time. If there are multiple posts, please do delete the extras!)

First, if we are speaking to all the girls in the mall that are wearing less and attracting more attention, we make a big mistake. Girls who are not aware of the love of God in the form of Christ are only seeking to fill the God-shaped hole inside. We can hardly blame them for accepting what the world says will fill their ‘empty places,’ namely, negative attention from men. I would propose that it is far more important for them to understand their value in Christ ahead of any admonitions about how they dress. With value in Christ, comes revelation about messages we send to others. It manifests in how we dress. Change how you see yourself, by seeing yourself in Christ, and outward appearances, and priorities, will change.

Next, if in fact, you are speaking to Christian girls, then this message makes a great deal of sense! I strongly believe however that every point you’ve made would carry a whole lot more weight if it came from Christian MEN. We are in a time where our men need to step up, as fathers, brothers, pastors, leaders and proclaim your points to our young women. With sexual sin abounding in the Church, when will fear be set aside and honesty trump? All young women want to be valued, not by their mothers or other women, Christian or otherwise, but by men. The entire problem, quite simply, is a result of men defining what womanhood is, whether a worldly definition or a Church definition. It is therefore the responsibility of Christian men to stand up and REINFORCE the correct definition for our young women. Jesus valued women not for their service or appearance to men; when the men that young women value begin to act TOWARDS THEM as Jesus did, we will see change. My prayer is that the MALE musical artists, actors, pastors, youth group leaders and leaders in every arena that proclaim Christianity will begin to trumpet to our young men AND women that the world’s standard is unacceptable, and to follow a better way.

But it all should begin with MEN changing themselves. We, as women, even Christian women, can say what we want … but the girls aren’t doing it for us, and the boys aren’t learning it from us.

Grace and peace.

Miranda Hupp said...

I could have expanded on each of the 7 truths. I actually started to but I did feel the Lord lead me in the direction I took. Although I do agree with SOME of the things you said, I never mention WHY any girl or woman does what she does. Be it dressing immodestly or live to exercise. Just stating facts that I have found to be true. :)

His-Follower said...

Sorry, I realize I may have been a little heavy-handed; maybe it was the frustration of having typed and lost it twice.

I would be very interested in what you think the 'why' is ... what you've written here is important, it's an excellent start, but there is a deeper story. You've an excellent writing style. I look forward to reading more.

Grace and peace.

Karyn Tripp said...

Fabulous post, Miranda!!

Becky said...

seriously such a great post! I completely agree with what you said here, and wish that every woman would read this. young women and women who dress like they wish they were still teenagers. and amen about being in s secure, committed marriage. nothing compares to how much better it is. any fling or 'long term' relationship pales in comparison, it's worth the wait!

Jonathan Paul said...

I'm a Christian man, and I approve this message 100%.

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